In about eleven weeks we’ll be welcoming our second child into the world, and we’re really excited. Our first just turned two, and is slowly but surely warming up to the idea of being a big brother to a little baby brother. One of the most adorable things that he does is talk about his brother in the third person, by name… he’s already bossing him around and telling him what he can and cannot do, and this poor chap’s still in the womb.

Raising our first up has been a journey so far, and we’ve learned a lot. I think it’s easy to say that we’re a lot more confident and ready for the second one than we were for the first, now what we at least know how to keep a little human alive and well.

We’re really excited about our growing family, and the growing families around us—both within our extended family and within our church community.

Kids are great.

That’s all.

Urgency Kills Valuable Productivity

Struggling with how to prioritize everything on your plate today?

If you’re like me, you probably can’t do urgent tasks effectively knowing that there are high-impact / high-value items you should be working on.

Urgency tends to kill valuable productivity. There are always things that feel urgent. Focus on them, and you’ll never get to your high value tasks.

Start with the things that will have the greatest impact. Define a stopping point before you begin. Work until you hit that stopping point.

Finish your day with what needs to be done before tomorrow.

You’ll thank yourself later.

Pausing To Reflect

Pause to think about why you’re doing what you’re doing today.

Past and present circumstances and the choices you made led to the place you stand today.

Five years from now, each of us will have had some level of success. Things will evolve, and some opportunities will present themselves (while others won’t). At that time, it will behoove us to reflect on whether we’re any closer to ‘why’ than when we started.

If we don’t take time to appreciate the progress we’ve made, we’ll put ourselves at risk of burnout, stress and anxiety.

If we do take those moments and celebrate the past, we give ourselves the opportunity to experience gratitude, refocus, and pivot where necessary.

Sacrifice Leads To Flourishing

Yesterday I was reminded of a timeless life lesson. It was the first day in about a year (that’s how long it’s been since we moved to Columbus from Orlando) that I’ve gotten out for some intense aerobic exercise.

In my foolishness, I decided to try my luck on the soccer field. It has always been one of my favorite sports. Sprinting up and down a field, however, is no joke, especially when you’re about a year out of shape, and your feet and knees don’t remember what soccer cleats feel like.

I almost fainted after the first thirty minutes.

On the field a friend told me that he does the work he rather skip out on (running, dieting) so that he can survive the things he really enjoys (soccer, tennis).

I’m going to start doing the same.

It’s easy to cruise through life and enjoy the status quo, but the things we want excel at take effort and possibly sacrifice. That sacrifice is painful, but it’s so worth it.

[°o”] Photo by Alex Lanting

The Year We Rejected The Lie Of Sunk Cost

A few years ago we moved to Orlando. For the first eleven months or so, Caroline and I rented an apartment close to where I work. It was great, but we realized that we were throwing a lot of money away when we could be investing our housing costs in a home.

At that point in our lives we had decided that Orlando would be our home for the next five or more years, so, we decided to save for a down-payment. We were fortunate to find a great first home about ten minutes away from our apartment.

Over the course of the next year we put a decent amount of money into that little yellow house. It needed new insulation in the attic and a new AC unit with a heat pump, and a new electrical panel (among other first-time homeowner expenses).

Fast forward about a year and we had welcomed our first child into the world. About six months later, we realized we wanted to raise our kids close to our families and extended family—in Ohio—but we’d already sunk a lot of money into our first home.


We decided to sell anyways.

Even though we hadn’t given the home much time to appreciate, we still walked away with cash for another down-payment in Ohio. Instead of losing over $1k every month to rent, we were able to re-invest a decent portion of the previous year’s housing costs and expenses into a new place to live.

So the thought of the day is this:

Don’t let the notion of sunk cost scare you away from a big decision, whether it be financial, or otherwise.

There might be other factors that deter you in a decision, but please don’t let that be the one that puts the final nail in the coffin on a decision or an idea you’re kicking around and praying about.

Leaving Orlando was the hardest thing we’ve ever done. We had such a rich, vibrant community there. Yet, we’re glad we didn’t let those previous financial investments tie us down for another five years. Postponing our decision likely would have only let to a more difficult decision down the road.

I know this isn’t everyone’s experience, and that a decision like this could have gone the other way… But we’re thankful we decided to take the leap of faith, and that we were seeking God’s wisdom along the way. We’re thankful we we’re able to do what felt right for our family at the time; looking back, we can see how God used it to set us up for this current chapter of life.

We’re also thankful for the generosity and support of our families, whose miscellaneous resources also helped make the transition possible. What a life lesson in sacrificial love!