Sacrifice Leads To Flourishing

Yesterday I was reminded of a timeless life lesson. It was the first day in about a year (that’s how long it’s been since we moved to Columbus from Orlando) that I’ve gotten out for some intense aerobic exercise.

In my foolishness, I decided to try my luck on the soccer field. It has always been one of my favorite sports. Sprinting up and down a field, however, is no joke, especially when you’re about a year out of shape, and your feet and knees don’t remember what soccer cleats feel like.

I almost fainted after the first thirty minutes.

On the field a friend told me that he does the work he rather skip out on (running, dieting) so that he can survive the things he really enjoys (soccer, tennis).

I’m going to start doing the same.

It’s easy to cruise through life and enjoy the status quo, but the things we want excel at take effort and possibly sacrifice. That sacrifice is painful, but it’s so worth it.


[°o”] Photo by Alex Lanting

The Year We Rejected The Lie Of Sunk Cost

A few years ago we moved to Orlando. For the first eleven months or so, Caroline and I rented an apartment close to where I work. It was great, but we realized that we were throwing a lot of money away when we could be investing our housing costs in a home.

At that point in our lives we had decided that Orlando would be our home for the next five or more years, so, we decided to save for a down-payment. We were fortunate to find a great first home about ten minutes away from our apartment.

Over the course of the next year we put a decent amount of money into that little yellow house. It needed new insulation in the attic and a new AC unit with a heat pump, and a new electrical panel (among other first-time homeowner expenses).

Fast forward about a year and we had welcomed our first child into the world. About six months later, we realized we wanted to raise our kids close to our families and extended family—in Ohio—but we’d already sunk a lot of money into our first home.

Well…

We decided to sell anyways.

Even though we hadn’t given the home much time to appreciate, we still walked away with cash for another down-payment in Ohio. Instead of losing over $1k every month to rent, we were able to re-invest a decent portion of the previous year’s housing costs and expenses into a new place to live.

So the thought of the day is this:

Don’t let the notion of sunk cost scare you away from a big decision, whether it be financial, or otherwise.

There might be other factors that deter you in a decision, but please don’t let that be the one that puts the final nail in the coffin on a decision or an idea you’re kicking around and praying about.

Leaving Orlando was the hardest thing we’ve ever done. We had such a rich, vibrant community there. Yet, we’re glad we didn’t let those previous financial investments tie us down for another five years. Postponing our decision likely would have only let to a more difficult decision down the road.

I know this isn’t everyone’s experience, and that a decision like this could have gone the other way… But we’re thankful we decided to take the leap of faith, and that we were seeking God’s wisdom along the way. We’re thankful we we’re able to do what felt right for our family at the time; looking back, we can see how God used it to set us up for this current chapter of life.

We’re also thankful for the generosity and support of our families, whose miscellaneous resources also helped make the transition possible. What a life lesson in sacrificial love!

Future Education

My kids’ education will be worlds different from the one I had, and I don’t know if I should be concerned or excited.


** Backstory / Disclaimers:

I grew up in private schools. My parents pinched pennies to put me through a Christian elementary school, and sent me to the same Christian middle / high school that my dad has been working at for some 20+ years, now.

I wouldn’t trade the experiences I had there for any of the experiences other Zachs have had in alternate timelines and/or parallel universes (though I’m sure that all of those experiences taught them valuable lessons in the same way that mine did).

I also owe my college education to my parents’ hard work-ethic and faith that God would provide the funds, so long as they were good stewards of what they had. I graduated with some debt, but due to their faith and generosity, it was minimal, and my wife and I were able to pay it off within a year or two of my entering the workforce.


When I began my senior year of high school, I had no idea what I wanted to do with the rest of my life.

This is probably common with a lot of kids in that stage of life.

It was my senior year. I still remember sitting in our family car, talking to my dad about what I was (or wasn’t?) going to do after high school, let alone after college. This conversation led into a discussion about the things that I enjoyed doing at that time. I had a wide range of interests, but I didn’t have a lot of experience with most of those interests.

The only activity I’d been spending a reasonable amount of time doing my senior year was music; specifically in the praise & worship scene. I was involved in four events a week, two of which I was organizing myself. I put so much time and effort into that space that I rarely had time for much else.

I decided to look into sharpening my skills by joining an undergrad music program that concentrated on preparing and placing young people in worship/music roles around the country.

There were only two universities with strong, established programs like that at the time, and that’s how I ended up at Cedarville University in the cornfields of southwestern Ohio.

Aaaand then I changed majors after one semester… to Communications. What had previously been my minor, Digital Communication, became the major I graduated with (with a concentration on Broadcasting & Audio Production).

And now, five years later, I’m enjoying life as a product manager at a software-driven medical devices company. (As much as it sounds like “Digital Communication” should have applied to the software industry, product management is NOT the discipline my undergrad degree prepared me for).

My story is not unique. Hopefully it becomes less and less the status quo.

If you keep your ear to the ground in the tech industry, you’ll hear tech moguls talk about hiring people who do not have a college degree—essentially, hiring based on merit rather than education.

I think this will poses a new (exciting) challenge for people today and for my kids in the way-future. They’ll need to demonstrate the skills necessary for the position during interview processes, rather than leaning on their resume, references, and a short personality test.

I don’t think this is a bad change, rather, I think that this will push the next generation to be the best version of themselves, to take advantage of opportunities, and to make their education their own from an earlier age.

What I think is interesting is that it seems that the people of the future might put much higher value on specific skills vs. well-rounded educations like the one I graduated with. I have a feeling we’ll start seeing that shift in more and more industries, just like in the tech industry (save medical industries where people are poking around your body with metal tools and cauterizing wounds with lasers).

I’m imagining something of a reversion towards apprenticeships… the depth of the relationships and mentorship that come as a side-effect of that would be more than welcome in a world where isolation and loneliness are common feelings despite all the ways we “connect” with one another.

Normalizing that kind of educational norm is something I could get on-board with.

All that said, I hope that the future Mini-Me’s are as prepared and focused as they can be.

For them, this may mean waiting to start higher education until they have a better idea of what they might want to do with the rest of their lives.

Maybe gap year(s) will be more common-place as large industries move further towards a merit-based hiring process.

Maybe degrees will be less common, and universities will have to pivot, offering programs that focus only on a students specific interests. This would help cut the fat from “well-rounded” degrees.

Personally, I can think of a number of “gen-ed” courses I was required to take that were probably as effective as dumping cash into a burn bin, especially in comparison to the value I could have received from a more industry-specific course (even in the event that I decided not to go into that industry).

I only want what’s best for my kids. With education becoming more and more expensive, it’s only going to become more important that we make the most of every dollar in that space.

A lot of people have fantastic ideas about how to do this. Many of them (most of them?) are way more qualified than I am to talk to or write on the subject.

That’s fine. This is where I’m at. I hope that those folks with a more complete picture of what the future of education looks like (and who have the power to change it) are able to find this post, and maybe even consider acting on it.

Wouldn’t that be something.


Feature Photo by Joanna Kosinska on Unsplash

Lacking

Simplify to rectify;
I tire of watching days go by.
Desire burning in my brain,
But patience wastes away as I…

Sit inside my mind surrounded by the things that haunt me;
Push and pull a tug of war that’s never seemed so daunting.
This life is charact’rized by all the things that I believe in,
Or so I tell myself in an attempt to shake my demons.

When life is spinning all around,
It helps to drop some things I’ve found
Which bought me joy if for a moment;
Now sit in my closet dormant.

So tell me, do you wonder, “Do I own these classic records,
or all the games I play in my own virtual ever-after?
What do I need to make my life seem whole and make me happy?”
The truth is that I’m far too scared to face the silence, lacking.

It’s why I sit in darkness jotting lyrics on this napkin.

Albums Of The Year (So Far)

Music speaks to me. I enjoy the occasional album that has a good beat and solid production, but most of what really gets me is music you can tell is written from the artist’s experience, or music that is written as a social commentary of some kind.

That, paired with solid music and production, is what a gold record sounds like.

There have been a handful of albums I’ve heard over the past few years that I’ve enjoyed. So far this year, that list can be whittled down to three albums and a single. I’m not going to link to the albums below, as you can find them all on Spotify or Apple Music… I’ll use the headers to link to some live performances (where available) instead.

Fair warning for anyone playing this music at work: A few of the songs on these albums are “Explicit.”


Dermot Kennedy (Self-Titled Album)

A compilation of a lot of singles, EP’s and a couple new songs, this is a fantastic singer-songwriter album that captures a lot of emotion. If you like piano- or acoustic guitar-driven music, chances are you’ll really enjoy this one.

A lot of Dermot’s songs are really gritty, a little bit dark, and have the ability to punch you right in the feels. Lyrically, every song is an interesting listen. Musically, you can tell that he and his crew are extremely talented. (Link above is to their NPR Tiny Desk Concert).

At 27 yrs., we’re the same age. Every time I listen to his music, I think to myself, “Man! Why didn’t I write that?” (The answer’s because this guy really works at it, and puts a lot of effort into developing his musical skills and gifts. 😬)

Favorite tracks include:

  • An Evening I Will Not Forget (Acoustic)
  • All My Friends (Acoustic)
  • Moments Passed
  • Glory
  • After Rain
  • Shelter
  • etc., etc., etc.

Divinely Uninspired To A Hellish Extent – Lewis Capaldi

Lewis Capaldi, 22, has also been releasing singles and EP’s since 2017, and just recently put out his first full album. While the production on this album is a little heavier-handed than a lot of singer-songwriter music, for the most part it’s still relatively simple, and can be enjoyed in most listening environments.

Favorite tracks include:

  • Grace
  • Fade
  • Hold Me While You Wait
  • Hollywood
  • Someone You Loved
  • Maybe
  • Don’t Get Me Wrong
  • (Yes, seriously, there are a lot of great tracks to choose from here.)

Doom Days – Bastille

I’ve been listening to Bastille since they released Bad Blood in 2013. The single, “Pompeii,” really got my attention, and once the full album was released it turned out that it wasn’t even the album’s best song (like a lot of singles).

When Doom Days first dropped, I was initially gripped by the title track’s commentary on today’s cultural norms. It’s a fantastic track… I linked to a live performance in the header.

Favorite tracks include:

  • Quarter Past Midnight
  • Doom Days
  • Joy
  • Divide
  • Million Pieces

Bonus Single: Shadow – Macklemore & IRO

We watched Songland on Hulu this past month. One of the episodes featured Macklemore and some really talented songwriters. The song he chose, “Shadow,” was written by a street performer. It was presented as a chorus and a bridge, since Macklemore writes all of his verses.

The moment when he tells the writer, IRO, that he wants him featured on the song for he chorus and bridge will give you chills. Forty days after they started working together on the song, they performed the finished version live at one of Macklemore’s concerts (I’ve linked to the live video in the header).

Enjoy!


What have been some of your favorite albums this year? Looking for other songs that both say something and really jam.

Comments are open!